Jules Sebastian has taken to sharing her couch with a list of notable names (from songstress Samantha Jade to our very own founder and editor-in-chief, Lisa Messenger – not to mention her very own husband, Guy Sebastian), but today we turn the questions on the Sydney-side stylist herself.
What inspired your latest online chat show, Tea with Jules?
It birthed out of what we do anyway, in our friendship circles. You have a cup of tea and everything just starts spilling out. And I thought, ‘what a cool idea to take it to people that have really inspiring and interesting stories, people that have just killed it in life’, you know?
Level with us, were you always stylish?
Growing up, I was a bit of a tomboy. More into sport and music and stuff like that, not really fashion. But, in saying that, I was very particular with what I wore. I played a lot of sport. If I wore tube socks, which were all the rage back then, I had to wear three pairs so that they sat at the right length of my leg, and they had to be the right colour and had to be Converse. It couldn’t be two stripes, it had to be three stripes. I wasn’t trendy or cool, but it had to be a certain way.
What was the biggest challenge in becoming a stylist?
I think as a creative person it’s hard to have that business side as well. The one thing I think I really learned from watching Guy doing his thing [is that] he’s super talented and creative but he’s really business savvy as well, and I saw that having both can be very powerful, and necessary, to what you do. Because I’m on my own – I don’t work for anyone else, I don’t rely on anyone else for a pay cheque – I rely on myself and my work that I do. So I caught on to that – that I needed to have that side as well as the creative side; one without the other just doesn’t go forward.
How did it feel when you put yourself out there as a stylist?
I was scared. I was really really scared to put myself out there, because you do a few jobs here and there and then all of a sudden, once you put it out there, that’s what you are, you know? You can’t go back on it. You have to believe in yourself and be confident that what you say you are, you can deliver on. Because that is massive – if you say it then you are it.
Despite having two little boys, you and Guy have both managed to have successful careers… what’s the secret?
It definitely has taken a lot of planning and sacrifice. Honestly if you want something done, give it to a mum because they just work. They go, ‘I’ve got this much time, I’m going to get everything done.’ And I’ve just become some sort of tornado during those hours – you just rip through it. And then go home and be mother. I know I appear very busy and I feel like I am, but it’s very structured and very thought through.
Any advice on how to create your dream life?
I’m 35 so it’s taken me a long time to get to that point where everything’s just good, everything’s sweet. It’s such a good place to be. I’m happy, I’m excited, but I don’t have any clue where I’m going! You don’t want to block things, you don’t want to go, ‘No that’s not in my plan’ and miss opportunities. I’ve always put what I’m doing now out there, and the stars are aligning, and it’s just all coming together. So I truly believe in that – just putting it out there – putting your dreams out into the world and just seeing what happens. I can testify now, I can testify that it’s real.
Catch our full story on Jules in Issue 23 of the Collective, on sale now.