Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling


And why that's more than OK.

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Can you remember the first time you were asked that unavoidable life question: ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’

What was your answer? A firefighter? A doctor? A hairdresser? Maybe a barrister? (Elle Woods definitely did wonders for early noughties law school sign-ups) What about an actor?

It’s a question we’ve all been forced to ponder since childhood, and comes to the forefront as an ‘adult’ when trapped in well-meaning but inane small talk at drinks parties.

What used to be a topic of excitement, full of unstoppable dreams and possibility, can turn into an anxiety-inducing existential crisis in a matter of years! And this is by no means because of a lack of options, but thanks to an overwhelming array of them.

“The notion of a narrowly focused life is romanticised in our culture. [There’s] this idea of destiny or one true calling… but what if you’re someone who isn’t wired this way?”

If, as widely suspected, choice is one of the modern world’s main causes of stress, there are fewer places this will manifest more than the countless career paths we’re privileged to explore today.

In her TEDxBend talk, ‘Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling’, Emilie Wapnick reflects, “While this question inspires kids to dream about what they could be, it does not inspire them to dream about all they could be. In fact, it does just the opposite, because when someone asks what you want to be, you can’t reply with 20 different things.”

Let’s be honest, the declaration, ‘I want to be a helicopter pilot and a jewellery designer’ may be met with a fond chuckle when you’re five, but it’s more likely to be a skeptical eye-roll when you’re 25.

Emilie believes this is because, “the notion of a narrowly focused life is romanticised in our culture. [There’s] this idea of destiny or one true calling… but what if you’re someone who isn’t wired this way?” She continues, “What if there are a lot of different subjects you’re curious about, and many different things you want to do?”

Can you remember the first time you were asked that unavoidable life question: ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’

This was me. Hell, this is me. As someone who has a complex about attempting to fit in everything they want to experience in their lifetime, the term ‘slashie’ rose to prominence to accommodate folk like us (you know the type: Art Director/Craft Beer Brewer/Organic Candle-Maker). Yet it now not only seems to be frowned upon, but also doesn’t account for those who jump, one at a time, from one passion to another.

Well, thankfully, Emilie has coined a term for those with more than one dream or path of curiosity – the ‘multipotentialite’.

This notion is actually not new at all. Even though your parents, grandparents and great-grandparents may have remained in one vocation for 40 years, their ancestors, only a couple of centuries back, were total ‘multipotentialites’. Ever heard of a Renaissance person or a polymath? Having multiple interests and disciplines was highly idealised before the Industrial Revolution streamlined us all into silos. And the qualities that were celebrated then are even more relevant today.

Emilie highlights three main strengths of a multipotentialite:


Have you noticed how innovation almost always sits at the intersection of fields? Multipotentialites have the strong ability to combine their knowledge, experience and interests from two or more fields and see solutions that others rarely can.


Mulitpotenialites are natural absorbers, recurrent beginners – au fait at being uncomfortable and learning things for the first time. And each time they change role or profession or environment, it’s clear how transferable (directly or indirectly) the skills acquired from their prior chapter have been.


The ability to morph, pivot and shift to meet a given situation is one of the most important requirements for entrepreneurs. In fact, Fast Company identified it as the single most important skill to develop in order to thrive in business (and life) today.


So, moving forwards I am planning to take Emilie’s lead, own my ‘multipotentiality’, have fun with it, learn from it and be completely honest the next time somebody asks, ‘So, what do you do?’.

But, if none of this sounds like you at all, there’s no cause for concern. Chances are you’re a ‘specialist’: the kind of person who just knew the one thing you were born to do from the moment you left the womb. And, dear specialist, thank goodness for you too because (as most co-founded businesses will attest) the best teams are usually formed of a multipotentialite and a specialist working together; each playing to their own innate wiring.

Perhaps the bottom line is simply this: to thine own self be true.

Jason E

Loved this video & think that Emilie & I must be related.

Have known that I am a “Multipotentialite” for years & it is EXACTLY how I am wired.

Christina Gerakiteys

This was a great talk at Wired For Wonder last year. A colleague of mine worked for Steve Jobs (and Spielberg). He asks Jobs over coffee why he had hired him. Jobs replied it was because he knew a fair bit about a lot. This is what happens to many in the creative space. They can then adapt their knowledge and join any dots to both identify problems and opportunities and come up with solutions.


WOW, it was amazing to read this – it’s like someone gave me permission to be me!!(not that I needed permission) but so many make comment to me about focusing on ONE thing, and it just isn’t me, and for quite a while I have thought, and even suggested to those closest to me, that there must be something weird about me. I have ideas just come to me all the time, and I acknowledge them (when I can keep up!!), and I love learning more and following ideas, and I morph, pivot and shift as soon as conditions or other changes occur. Yeay, I am me, a multipotentialite. Thank you thank you thank you.


This is soooo me. Thank you. I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I was younger because I was good at so many things(except math)and still am. I am an artist/photographer. Write music, learned to play the violin as an adult. Construct scripts and books in my head and worked on my own vehicles throughout my life. I taught myself to build/assemble computers and used to sell them. I can cook and sew well too and do interior design and gardening and was the go-to information and research person for our family and my Ph.D yielding husband. But never enjoyed just being stuck doing one thing. I’m back exploring my art and having a blast. I remember a (male) friend saying I was a “jack-of-all trades but a master of none” <~ this while raising two young children alone. But I live the life I've always wanted, drive the car I want and have a nice home and don't have to go to work outside the home anymore. I haven't for years- I let my husband do that and he loves it.


The day you are born people tell you what to do; you go to school – they tell you what to do; you go to work – they tell you what to do; society and media tells you what to do. Then one day some one asks you what do you want to do. You have no idea – you have been too busy trying to live up to others’ forced opinions to ever really think about this. The problem is how do you find out what you want to do. You can’t – because you are so full of forced opinions, it’s impossible to find by yourself. Happily there is a way and once you find the way – your purpose will find you if you are open to receiving it. I am certain of this – I wrote a book which I needed to first read myself. Today I live my own purpose. The only problem was it took me 60 years before I found my purpose. I wish everyone can find their purpose too – however it is only for the lucky few. Someone more wise than myself once said, the best two days of your life are the day you’re born and the day you realize why. I wish you the second day. (I was once a life coach – it was not my purpose.)


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